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Name: Eunice
Country: usa
i have a seven month old who is very happy and sweet. he plays and is crawling. but sometimes if he is in your face he likes to hit or scratch you. i tap his hand very lightly and tell him no very stearnly. i don't like the idea of him doing someone else that way let alone myself. so he needs to know now about not hitting or scratching anyone. he now is not doing it as much now that i tell him no, and i don't entertain him behaving that way.

Name: Iris
Country: usa
discipline an infant, give me a break! i am amother of five and i have never heard of such a thing. infants are in a discovery stage. you can re-direct an action that you donot like but discipline,please! next thing people are going to say that they potty trained their infant. :enjoy" that new baby and stop worring about disciplining him/her. marvel at this/her new acomplishments.

Name: Ana
Country: dubai
i'm a mum of 5months old boy.i believe that one should start disciplining a child right after birth. though a baby cannot talk but can understand most of his routines.i feed my baby burp him and puts him on the bed talks to him and sings for him, if he does'nt sleeps i carry him for a while and again place him on the bed,he sleeps quietly.its difficult in the beginning but once a child gets into it, it really works.its not possible when the child is sick.loud music helps him to stop crying.i never force foods on him, which prevents him from vomiting if he starts to spit the food, i just wash his face.my son enjoy bathing for he is being well fed before it.a child must be taught to respect n value own belongings as well as of others.don't laugh n encourage a child's bad behaviour.a disciplined child brings pride to parents.

Name: Anitha
Country: india
i am mum of 1 yr 4 months female baby. how to teach discipline to her and what food i have to give her.

Name: Jessica
Country: usa
i have a 10 mth old who is very strong-willed. he looks right at you & throws a tantrum, he screams and blows raspberries when i try to feed him. he walks over to you and demands whatever you are eating/drinking. he doesn't have communication skills yet, so he gets frustrated. any ideas on how to stop this behavior other than saying "no" and not laughing at naughtiness? i'm not about to spank or give time-outs, but other people are starting to avoid us!

Name: dhanashri chandajkar
Country: india
these all articles are very good and are the mirror images of experiences i am am getting with my child.i would like to read more articles.

Name: carol schade
Country: usa
i belive that you should start disciplining your child the moment they are born. babies are kinda like puppies, you have to train them, once you put them on a schedule and get them used to it, they will understand that they can not do sertin stuff. the way you train them depends on how they will come out. if you let them get away with everything you will have nothing but trouble, if you tell them no and lightly slap their hand and move them to a place where you want them they will learn to obey you and respect you. don't give in or you will have lost the battle be persistant. if you give in just once you have everything you have worked for. dont be a hard butt either have fun with your child spend time with them. read them stories, tell them you love them and make them laugh. let them know they are loved and wanted. they need to know this. you can be their friend while being their parent. have fun and good luck

Name: collen
Country: usa
i have 4 sons under 5yrs ,2 infants ,a one yr old,and a 4 yr old,now sure you do not disciplin infants, but the other two are .not in physical disciplin way as i was as a child,but they do get scolded,told no ,the 4 yr old does get a good talking to. now when i go to a store,trust me i see no temper tantrums..the 1 yr old luckily just is a sweet baby doesnt hit,have tantrums etc.you do need to fully explain to a child why there behavior is wrong,the reason that they cannot do certain things,why they should not hit etc. i am not saying explaining to a baby or 1 year old ,but 2,3,4 yrsm they do understand.and if you do yell,ladies,take a time out ,then goe to your child appologize for your outburst,sit down explain to your child adults also have bad days and act silly,then explain to them why you yelled and why you got upset. always remember this they are little,but deserve the same respect as a person as you would give anyone else,if you yell at your husband you say sorry,give your child the same respect,which is keyword to good children.

Name: sftjsrjr
Country: korea
it is scary

Name: Rachel
Country: england
i have a 7mth old baby. who is very determined. she is fine most of the time but requires endless amounts of attention. she has this annoying habit of oohing really loudly and if she doesn't get what she wants starts to get louder and more impatient. i tried to say no to her in a firm voice, but this only increases her persistence, i have been told to smack her and have never believed in this. the thing which does work is redirecting her attention. i am not sure if this is right, but i am not going to battle with her, after all she is only trying to discover the world. on the down side, when you are tired it would be nice just to be able to 'discipline and they suddenly behave as good as gold' but i think you stunt their growth doing this and they become introverted too much the other way.

Name: Disgusted Momma
Country: usa
i cannot believe someone would compare their children to puppies! people like you need to be steralized!!!! you do not train your kids like dogs, they are human beings, just like you and they deserve to be treated like that. i feel sorry for your kids!!!!!!!!!!

Name: peixin
Country: singapore
im a mom of a 5mth old boy.i believe dat if u have a fixed routine for ur bb,u will haf a easier time n i oso strongly believe dat ur bb understand n noe wat to expect next.but i don tink dats call descipline.n im dat type of mom who feel dat 'since u are d mom,u suld noe wat is best for ur bb n not follow blindly wat others say.'

Name: Radhika
Country: india
my daughter turned 18 months, she is very adament and i do know how to teach her, please suggest me, i think this is right time to start disciplining and teach her some rhymes, colours etc. and also suggest me the way to teach her. though know i started teaching her rhymes alongwith dancing but sometime she doesn't take interest.

Name: Gina
Country: usa
disipline no!! its all about redirecting. setting a new direction to the attitude. a positive one. i know we are all tired, but its part of being a sucessful mother. one thing i am worried about is, by telling her the word "no" will it come back to haunt me when does learn to say it. hmmm

Name: Stephany
Country: usa
getting smacked is scary! dont do it!

Name: Maya
Country: india
i cannot believe the title was "my child seems to think she has a mind of her own." of course she has a mind of her own! she is a developing human being! it is a shame adults try to stifle children so much, robbing them of their first steps towards independence.

Name: kiren
Country: england
my son has just turned one and i feel now is the time to start to discipline him is he misbehaves up until now i have to admit i have been quite soft with him, a firm no at the moment is sufficient if he spits food, tries to pull the lampshade down, etc he understands that this behaviour is not allowed. i am not going to go overboard and hit him i hope that my tone of voice will control him. fingers crossed.

Name: meggy
Country: philippines
let me also share to you my ways of handling my 4 month baby girl. 1. i always create a happy atmosphere everytime i am with her, irregardlessof how i feel for that day. in this way i teach my child to be jolly and friendly. 2. i make sure that i gave her all the quality time ican offer... though i'm vry busy i always save time to take care. 3. i kept on saying i love you's and mama's always here for you in a way that my baby can build trust and love. at this very young age it is very imprt. to let the child feel that they asre loved because this emotional approach can be carried as they grow up, most of the kids who were secured and loved as a baby will grow confident and humble. 3. patiencew is a virtue. if a child does mistakes or hard headed deal with them in a positive way. with my baby she easily cries a lot for no reason i just think perhaps she's uncomfortable, hungry or hurt nstead of oosing my temper i offer my hugs and loving words to comfort her. in return i found her calming. as a physical therapist, i learned a lot about child's behavior, and there is one thing i learned which serve as the fundamentals of all and that is forget yourself and attend to your childs needs, spanking is not bad but as much as posible avoid it and letthem know there mistakes thru communication. a child is always a child, they easily turn to something good for them, just offer your kindness and love they will submit.

Name: Sonia
Country: india
well am of the view that kids r all smarter than us they do understand everything as am experiencing with my 11 month old who knows what stuff is no for him so sometimes i have noticed him nodding his head seeing the stuff without even hearing a no from me, though thats a different thing that they cant resist the temptation of doing what they r not supposed to but thats the way the kids r and thats why they r kids. v all should understand that childhood is all ablout fun and learning . and it should be the better way. the kid would respond the way v teach him if its positive they become positive and a no for everything surely has a nagative impact. so be interactive with kids, they do understand u and what u say. they r attention seekers so if v only pay attention when they doing wrong they will get into trouble for that so atleat i make point to praise, applaud and clap for my child with excitement whenever he behaves good or finishes his food. shower them with love as thats what they need and deserve. they r the little miracle(ur creation) and will grow up the way u mould them. good luck all great people bringing up their little ones.

Name: Sara
Country: pakistan
i have a to month old and he is usually well behaved but his grandparents have got him in the habit of wanting to go out and now all he wnats to do is be picked up and go out. i have tried to talk him out of it but he starts ahhhing really loudly how do i break this habit. don;t tell me to talk to his grandparents they don;t listen.

Name: girls
Country: usa
i have two girls. 4 years and 10 months. the four year old is in head start and has a listening problem. her teacher says that for everything she is at a 5year old level except for listening. she has to be told a million times over what to do. she changes the subject when i am telling her to do something. i think that her baby sister is catching on to this. the baby never used to cry, or if she did she was hungry or wet. now that she has seen what her sister does she screams bloody murder just to have some one pick her up. i am tired and out of ideas. i don't know what to do. bed time is the worst. the four year old gets put to bed at 830 every night with a book or two, prayers and then hugs and kisses. i am out of ideas that way. once i leave the room she is up and down, for water, potty, xtra kisses, that kind of thing. she is never sleeping before midnight. i have some people telling me that a good whoopin will help and others telling me to let her sit in her room and cry. i personally do not believe in physical contact. i have tried just letting her have at it, but how long is to long. i have been told that what ever makes me comfirtable but sometimes that means 10 mins is to long. other nights when i am so frustrated the only thing i can do is let her go. sometimes the tantrums have lasted 2 hours. when i go in there i ask her are you ready to breathe and listen to momma or are you going to keep screaming. if she answers and wants to breathe then we breathe together, in thru nose out thru mouth for about 2-3 mins. long enough for her to calm down. is this right. what else can i do?

Name: megs
Country: usa
i have an 11 month old daughter who used to listen really well. untill her dad and i let my friend becca move in with us and verything we had taught our daughter and that was disicplinong her becca(my so called friend) had taught justic(our lil girl)that it was ok to disobay.how do we reteach her tha it's not ok to disobay mom and dad?

Name: kathy
Country: united kingdom
i babysit twins that are 32months old and they are quite a handful and im currently doing a child development course on discipline and i cant hit a child but the mother says that if one of thyem misbehaves then i must discipline them, and i cant! but i feel for all you mothers that are faced with a similar problem

Name: Luc
Country: U.S.A.
raising my son pretty free wheeling, eats when he's hungry, naps when he tried, and gets a pop on the buns when 3 no's and a toy waved for him isn't enough discouragement. spare the rod spoil the child, all this hard avoidance of spanking is speaking volumes to me on the play ground. i saw a little boy punch a little girl in the face 3 seperate times with his mother watching and she just sat there limply doing nothing, another mother calmly talked to her son after he pushed another boy down repeatedly he whipped around at one point and pushed her over too! these are children who will likely grow into extremely unhappy adults and at 1 yr old my son knows exactly what will happen when he carrys on with undesirable and harmful behavior. call me a tyrant but in the same breath you must also call me the mother of a happy child.

Name: Laura
Country: U.S.A.
it seems that some of the responses on this page are fearful of the word discipline, because it has come at least in the english language to have a negative connotation. i think we associate the word with bad things such as spanking, hitting, yelling and neglecting. i believe that children seek and deserve boundaries, after all they are trying to figure the world out. these boundaries can be set through laying out expectations and consequences for not following the rules, and mostly by parents being very consistent in their actions. with 1 year olds, it is difficult because they are just starting to grasp language, but in my opinion, our children are often able to grasp more then we give them credit for. by far, i believe positive reinforcement for good behavior is the best way to educate your child on what you expect them to do. when the child acts in a manner that is unwanted at such a young age, it is appropriate to address it with tactics like redirection (take the child outside for example) and gentleness. they are only seeking love and guidance afterall. to hit and yell is hateful. to ignore the behavior and give them whatever they want is highly irresponsible and will likely create a greedy little monster.

Name: mb
Country: australia
how to discipline twin boys 14mnths old, not to spit food when "no" only encourages more rasberry blowing with food in there mouths....

Name: gayatri
Country: india
i liked the info., would like to get regular mails on my growing baby.

Name: Roshni
Country: india
what is the right age to start disciplining your child?

Name: Taha
Country: India
i have a 7 months old baby boy,how can i treat him as a good mother and make him a disciplined and well mannered boy til he completed his 1 year, what type of games and poems should i follow for him to make him always happy please suggest me as soon as possible

Name: Cassandra Spangler
Country: U.S.A.
i do not believe in spanking. yet alot of my classmates do. i think that there are other ways to handle it.

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